I just told mine i was sooooo cool that I didn't have to pay for my friends.
She's marinating on that right now. I hope to God she doens't rush.
I despise the whole system and almost everything it stands for.
And my daughter is dead set on doing it.
Knock on wood, my daugther is currently dead set against a sorority - as of now. One of her close friends from high school was also against it as of this summer, but she's now rushing (at a different college than my daughter's school).
Her mom was in a sorority; if she wants to encourage it then she can pay for it.
Sounds like a jaded sorority girl wrote that article. In my experience, girls that dropped out of their sorority, hated their sorority, didn’t have any friends in their sorority, were the ones with the problem.
If you live with 100+ girls and can’t get along with any of them, it’s a you problem.
Yes it’s expensive. So is an off campus apartment and meal plans and/ or grocery shopping.
It’s not all that cost prohibitive if you consider the alternative.
I despise the whole system and almost everything it stands for.
And my daughter is dead set on doing it.
A lot of hit piece media against sororities these days. Most of it is over dramatic and picks up on rare instances that reflect poorly on the system.
They’re just college girls. No better or worse than Independents. Actually they’re better. Greek GPA is always higher than their independent peers. And they’re more attractive, with better social skills.
@bradstevens My daughter will gravitate towards it, I'm sure, when she goes to college. It'll make her willfully, even joyfully, miserable. Just how she likes it.
Sounds like a jaded sorority girl wrote that article.
Then you didn't read the article.
I did. I’m about to be a groomsman in a wedding where the bride is a former Ole Miss sorority girl. That wasn’t her experience, and not the perception I get from her friends.
Status symbols aren’t unique to sororities. You understand this yes?
I don't understand your reasoning. If the system glorifies them even more, that's OK because they are also found elsewhere?Sounds like a jaded sorority girl wrote that article.
Then you didn't read the article.
I did. I’m about to be a groomsman in a wedding where the bride is a former Ole Miss sorority girl. That wasn’t her experience, and not the perception I get from her friends.
Status symbols aren’t unique to sororities. You understand this yes?
You think it's rare for a group of wealthy girls in an institution that favors (anti-Christian) attributes like wealth and appearances in judging the girls as worthy to also act catty, judgmental, and bitchy?I despise the whole system and almost everything it stands for.
And my daughter is dead set on doing it.
A lot of hit piece media against sororities these days. Most of it is over dramatic and picks up on rare instances that reflect poorly on the system.
They’re just college girls. No better or worse than Independents. Actually they’re better. Greek GPA is always higher than their independent peers. And they’re more attractive, with better social skills.
Stop playing naive. We know you know that's bullshit.
You think it's rare for a group of wealthy girls in an institution that favors (anti-Christian) attributes like wealth and appearances in judging the girls as worthy to also act catty, judgmental, and bitchy?I despise the whole system and almost everything it stands for.
And my daughter is dead set on doing it.
A lot of hit piece media against sororities these days. Most of it is over dramatic and picks up on rare instances that reflect poorly on the system.
They’re just college girls. No better or worse than Independents. Actually they’re better. Greek GPA is always higher than their independent peers. And they’re more attractive, with better social skills.
Stop playing naive. We know you know that's bullshit.
I reject the idea that they’re overly elitist. Especially not at IU. Like I said, college is expensive, not just tuition but room and board as well. The exorbitant sorority dues look a lot less brutal when you the parent are paying for an off campus apartment and food for your kid anyway.
Sorority rush is definitely anxiety inducing from what I can gather and I think that’s where a lot of the criticism stems from. Anytime you are trying to impress dozens of people in a short amount of time anxiety and nervousness will be the norm. So you better learn to take pride in your appearance and be gregarious. Because you’ll have to do it again at new jobs, when you move to new neighborhoods, etc.
And many girls will be faced with rejection for reasons that might seem arbitrary or trivial. I think that’s an important lesson to learn as well. Have you ever been rejected for reasons that didn’t make sense to you? I bet you have.
Once you’re in, from what I gather it’s just typical college life. Maybe with a better social life and a wider support network.
And people dress up and are nice to each other at Mass as well. Just like sorority rush. Even parishes have hierarchies.
Thank God that, just like her mother, my freshman thinks people suck so she has zero interest at all.
Well hell hath indeed frozen over. Farva is right about all this . It is indeed as the author wrote in the south and Bama rush is famous and the worst example. IU rush is nothing at all like this. I know hundreds of girls who go thorough recruitment ( what it’s called now) and not a single one had a coach. All of the girls going through have a recruitment counselor who tells them most of what a coach would. The first two rounds are on zoom, so no one knows what you are wearing. The next round everyone wears the same tshirt. At IU they rarely pay much attention to legacies. I know toms of girls who got into top sororities without any family members and without sporting designer bags or jewelry. Also, as Farva also mentioned, living in a sorority is actually cheaper than most apartments in Bloomington. One of the things I loved was seeing girls from all over the country become close friends with each other. Of course there is plenty of partying, but you also have study table and you have to make your grades to remain a member. There are multiple philanthropic activities during the year. I saw so much growth in many of the girls from freshman to senior years and was always amazed and how much work and responsibility they gained. There are definitely negatives and it’s not for everyone. Lots of rules and the recruitment process is indeed brutal. Not enough diversity either. But there are many many positives. I’d let your daughters make their own decisions. And honestly, most of them will just do what their friends do. There’s nothing wrong with making a whole group of lifelong friends .